You wipe away the steam from the bathroom mirror and for a brief moment look at your face reflected back at you. You look tired and tense. Constant arguing and the sleeplessness that goes with it, eventually takes its toll. Your marriage is in trouble there is no denying it and you are not sure how much more of this daily conflict you can take.
Your faith is strongly opposed to divorce but just how long can you bang your head against a brick wall before something gives? You need guidance and you need it soon, or inevitably you or your partner will leave and your marriage will be over.
I believe this scenario I have described above is a pretty common one. So many Christians feel trapped in unhappy marriages, their anguish exacerbated by their beliefs. Marriage has always been part of Gods plan for his children, it is more that a secular contract, it is an issue of faith. But how do you rationalize the tenants of your faith, with the breakdown of your relationship maritaland your seemingly inevitable divorce?
Discover the Secret to Saving Your Christian Marriage!
The Reverend Lee Baucom, in his online course, ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ contends that your shared faith can be a catalyst for change in your relationship, that rather than regard faith as an obstacle, it is in fact a core component in repairing and ultimately creating a successful, fulfilling marriage.
In particular Chapter 11, ‘Strategies From Your Faith’, illustrates what powerful tools Christianity provides to transform our marriage.
Reverend Baucom points out that God is always present in our lives and marriage. We need to expand our awareness of God in our daily lives and understand that he is present in our interactions with our spouse.
As much as faith is a central pillar of Rev Baucom’s approach he also spends a great deal of time looking at the physiological and biological reasons why we react the way we do. The power of the subconscious mind and its effect on our emotions. How anger is often a manifestation of fear and how to deal with that anger. All of these concepts are discussed and explained in detail.
Understanding these issues and how to recognize and deal with them, allows you an opportunity to break your pattern, stop your downward spiral and actually begin repairing your relationship.
The Save Your Christian Marriage system has four main volumes.
- The primary eBook, ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’, some 188 pages long
- Bonus eBook, ‘ The Quick Start Guide To Saving Your Christian Marriage’
- Bonus eBook, ‘Dealing With Anger & Resentment, Yours and Your Spouse’s’
- Bonus eBook, ‘Top 5 Things NOT To Do When Your Partner Wants Out’
Overall Rev Baucom’s eBook is a fine guide and deals with the difficult subject matter with sensitivity and wisdom. Of course as with all marital guidance advice, positive change has to begin with YOU. The process of repairing your relationship, will require determination, self examination and most of all effort.
Just as a fisherman needs tools to catch fish, so to do you need tools to save your marriage.
‘Saving Your Christian Marriage’, can provide the tools you require to succeed but it is entirely up to the two of you, to decide whether you have the necessary faith and commitment, to make it happen.
May God guide you.
Ryan Hayes
P.S. Take the first step, the longer you wait the worse it will probably become. If you feel this guide is not right for you, then please take a look at my review of Amy Watermans, ‘Save My Marriage Today‘. It certainly looks at marriage breakdown from a much more secular perspective and is a very comprehensive in its guidance. Whatever you do take some action towards fixing your marriage problems today.
