You wipe away the steam from the bathroom mirror and for a brief moment look at your face reflected back at you. You look tired and tense. Constant arguing and the sleeplessness that goes with it, eventually takes its toll. Your marriage is in trouble there is no denying it and you are not sure how much more of this daily conflict you can take.

Your faith is strongly opposed to divorce but just how long can you bang your head against a brick wall before something gives? You need guidance and you need it soon, or inevitably you or your partner will leave and your marriage will be over.

I believe this scenario I have described above is a pretty common one. So many Christians feel trapped in unhappy marriages, their anguish exacerbated by their beliefs. Marriage has always been part of Gods plan for his children, it is more that a secular contract, it is an issue of faith. But how do you rationalize the tenants of your faith, with the breakdown of your relationship maritaland your seemingly inevitable divorce?

Discover the Secret to Saving Your Christian Marriage!

The Reverend Lee Baucom, in his online course, ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ contends that your shared faith can be a catalyst for change in your relationship, that rather than regard faith as an obstacle, it is in fact a core component in repairing and ultimately creating a successful, fulfilling marriage.

In particular Chapter 11, ‘Strategies From Your Faith’, illustrates what powerful tools Christianity provides to transform our marriage.

Reverend Baucom points out that God is always present in our lives and marriage. We need to expand our awareness of God in our daily lives and understand that he is present in our interactions with our spouse.

As much as faith is a central pillar of Rev Baucom’s approach he also spends a great deal of time looking at the physiological and biological reasons why we react the way we do. The power of the subconscious mind and its effect on our emotions. How anger is often a manifestation of fear and how to deal with that anger. All of these concepts are discussed and explained in detail.

Understanding these issues and how to recognize and deal with them, allows you an opportunity to break your pattern, stop your downward spiral and actually begin repairing your relationship.

The Save Your Christian Marriage system has four main volumes.

• The primary eBook, ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’, some 188 pages long
• Bonus eBook, ‘ The Quick Start Guide To Saving Your Christian Marriage’
• Bonus eBook, ‘Dealing With Anger & Resentment, Yours and Your Spouse’s’
• Bonus eBook, ‘Top 5 Things NOT To Do When Your Partner Wants Out’

Overall Rev Baucom’s eBook is a fine guide and deals with the difficult subject matter with sensitivity and wisdom. Of course as with all marital guidance advice, positive change has to begin with YOU. The process of repairing your relationship, will require determination, self examination and most of all effort.

Just as a fisherman needs tools to catch fish, so to do you need tools to save your marriage.

‘Saving Your Christian Marriage’, can provide the tools you require to succeed but it is entirely up to the two of you, to decide whether you have the necessary faith and commitment, to make it happen.

May God guide you.

Ryan Hayes

P.S. Take the first step, the longer you wait the worse it will probably become. If you feel this guide is not right for you, then please take a look at my review of Amy Watermans, ‘Save My Marriage Today‘. It certainly looks at marriage breakdown from a much more secular perspective and is a very comprehensive in its guidance. Whatever you do take some action towards fixing your marriage problems today.

You open your eyes to start a new day and then groan, as the memory of last night’s argument comes flooding back. You drag yourself out of bed and glance at your

partner, lying on the other side of the mattress. Apparently they are still sleeping or perhaps, they are just ignoring you. Briefly you consider touching their shoulder or perhaps whispering “good morning” but decide against it. Any form of communication will probably just result in another fight.

Hastily grabbing some clothes you head for the shower, sullen and silent. You are in a word, miserable and have no idea how you are going to stop the downward spiral your marriage is in.

Unless something changes soon you fear divorce is inevitable and the consequences of that seem unbearable. You need guidance and you need it fast.

I think anyone that has experienced a relationship breaking down can relate all too well to the scenario described above. Yet after reading through Amy Waterman’s, ‘Save My Marriage Today’, I realize that even a seemingly hopeless situation, doesn’t have to end in divorce.

Waterman provides a clear step by step process towards resolving your conflicts. Disagreements are inevitable when you are trying to tackle the deep seated problems that threaten your relationship. Having an established series of guidelines around which to settle these conflicts, is absolutely invaluable.

Some of the topics Save My Marriage Today addresses include

• How to rebuild your trust
• How to resolve conflicts successfully and finally
• How to feel more loved
• How to achieve a more fulfilling sex life
• How to avoid divorce
• How to increase the level of communication with your spouse

Discover The Secret To Saving Your Marriage!

Amy Waterman pulls no punches when discussing what is wrong with your relationship and how best to go about fixing it. She provides a group of exercises’ for the two of you to complete individually and as a couple.
Through these exercises you come to understand the core issues that afflict your union. Additionally you become more attuned to your respective needs, both as individuals and as a couple.

Save My Marriage Today presents real solutions to couples looking for answers to their relationship problems. It gives you an opportunity to recognize and break negative patterns of behavior and ultimately bring the love back to your relationship.

Course Contents

If the Save My Marriage today course has a fault it is probably that it provides almost too much material. Included in the course currently are the following items.

• Save My Marriage Today – Book 1
• Save My Marriage Today – Book2 – For Marriages In Extreme Crisis
• Save My Marriage Today Consults Book – Volumes 1, 2 and 3
• Re-establishing Commitment: Practical Steps to Reconnect and Rebuild Love in Your Marriage – Special Report
• BONUS: “6 Most Common Reasons for Divorce & How to Stop Them Happening to You!!” by Amy Waterman
• BONUS: “Stress – The Silent Killer: A Comprehensive Guide to Wellness & Inner Peace” by Ryan Sawyer
• BONUS: “7 Ways to Live Life to the Max” by Dennis Curyer
• BONUS: “How to Be Happy” by Joseph Miller
• BONUS: “The Journey” by Patrick Ryan
• BONUS: “How To Cheat Proof Your Relationship”

As you can see this course really over delivers in the amount of content it provides. It is one of the most comprehensive online courses I have ever seen and certainly provides tremendous value.

So in conclusion I highly recommend this course to anyone whose relationship is in trouble. In fact I believe every marriage could benefit from the strategies provided in this course, not just the ones that are teetering on the edge of divorce. If your goal is to save your marriage from becoming yet another divorce statistic, then I urge you strongly to take a look at this course. Also please remember that this is a Clickbank product and therefore comes with a mandatory 60 day, money back guarantee.

You really have nothing to lose, particularly when you consider this course costs less than a single session with a counselor!

So make the first step towards securing a better future for your relationship and your family.

Best of luck to you.

Ryan Hayes

P.S. Whatever you think of my review it is imperative that you take some action.
Even if you feel Save My Marriage Today is not right for you, that’s fine. Just make sure you find something that does resonate with you. If you seek a less secular perspective perhaps Reverend Lee Baucom’s, ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ would be more suitable. Just ensure that you take a first step, nothing will empower you more than action.

WARNING: ADULT CONTENT

The Christian Marriage Bed is an often used term in Christian media. The term Christian Marriage Bed is used as a euphemism for Christian Sexuality within the context of marriage.

The obvious question is why?

The fact that a discussion of Christian sexuality needs to be expressed in this manner is in my opinion indicative of the issues that surround Christian Sexuality.

Is it out of some sense of propriety that the subject of Christian sexuality needs to be vaguely framed in these terms?

So to be abundantly clear and frank, this article is about SEX! Yes within the context of a Christian marriage but still, hot, steamy, passionate, fantastic sex.

If you find my enthusiastic descriptions a little disturbing then you might want to consider hitting the back button in your Internet browser now, because I’m about to get more enthusiastic!

Learn How To Have Sex As God Intended For You And Your Wife!

To be perfectly frank, I love my time in the Christian marriage bed! Not that it necessarily has to be in the bed but it’s certainly a good starting point. I love sex, I look forward to sex and my wife feels the same way. It is one of the great experiences of life and if you don’t feel it is for you, then it is most definitely something you need to address, because it should be.

Dissatisfaction with their sex lives is a very common problem in Christian marriage. There are a number of factors that contribute to the development of these problems.

The discussion of sex is taboo in many Christian households. Children, particularly female children are raised to believe that sex is not nice and certainly not be discussed. Christian children’s knowledge of sex is largely gleaned from their peers and the media, which are not necessarily the most informed sources.

Whilst they may learn about the biological aspects of “making babies” in school, the more difficult to discuss aspects may be overlooked or only touched upon.

So our children are often raised in an environment where sexuality and its place in a Christian marriage, are largely a mystery. Of course they are well versed in the the basic Christian teachings that premarital sex is wrong and adultery is a mortal sin. This only serves to strengthen their opinion that sex is somehow “wrong.”

As our children reach their mid teens their hormone driven fascination with sex only becomes stronger, yet at the same time they are confronted with this vague notion that the whole subject of sexuality is taboo. Is it any wonder that sexual dysfunction is common when they finally enter into a Christian relationship?

Discover Sexual Satisfaction for the Christian Wife!

So if you find yourself in a marriage, where the sexual aspects of the relationship are far from satisfactory, what can you do? Well for some answers I would suggest taking a look at the next article in this series, Christian Sex. It is a frank discussion of sexuality within a Christian marriage. The sexual practices that Christian couples can explore and how they relate to the teachings of the Bible.

So what is a Christian Marriage Retreat? It generally involves a gathering of Christian couples at some resort style location. To the observer it may appear to be a mini vacation of sorts.

What is the goal of Christian marriage retreat? It allows married couples an opportunity to break from their day to day lives and spend some time together, focusing on their relationship. This focus is normally conducted under the guidance of marriage counsellors, who facilitate and provide specific strategies to assist the couples in identifying and resolving the issues that impact on their relationship.

The pressures of life, work, children, commitments, often make it impossible for couples to devote their attention towards strengthening their relationship. A retreat provides a nurturing environment, for the couple to begin working on their relationship. Generally there are other couples present at a retreat, who are experiencing similar relationship issues. It is often a source of great comfort when a couple realises that the problems they are experiencing are not unique, that in fact many of their peers are struggling with the same challenges in their Christian marriage.

The Christian marriage retreat is often presented in a seminar format. Experienced relationship counselors guide the couples through a series of discussions and exercises. The expertise of these counselors is of utmost importance if the couples are to maximise the benefits the retreat provides. The guidance they provide should facilitate effective and honest communication between the married couple. The counselor should be able to provide specific strategies to encourage communication and to isolate the issues that the couples union is experiencing.

If your Christian marriage is challenged, then certainly a retreat is worth considering. It is a viable alternative to traditional couples counseling, allowing for greater focus and more immediate results. It does involve a larger time commitment but it provides a great opportunity to discuss, understand and resolve the issues which your Christian marriage faces.

Good luck and may God guide you.

Ryan Hayes

WARNING: ADULT CONTENT

Marriage is sacred, all Christians agree on that point. I believe that most Christians would agree that Christian sex and the sexual union between man and wife, is equally sacred.

Yet the entire subject of Christian Sex has been somehow taboo for generations.

So why is everyone so hung up on the subject of sex? Why are so many Christians plagued with guilt about their sexual practises?

The scriptures really only highlight a few sexual taboos, pre marital sex, adultery, bestiality, incest and homosexuality.

The church really has very little to say on the subject of sex, largely ignoring the sexual issues that many couples struggle with. Yet we are sexual creatures and I believe ignoring our sexual nature is a mistake.

One such issue is masturbation. Many would argue that the story of Onan (Genesis 38:6-9) indicates that masturbation is a prohibited practise. I would strongly disagree with this view.

Masturbation is both a physical and physiological release and is a natural practise for both sexes. Furthermore it is an important step in learning your own sexual response, particularly for women. It is pretty difficult teaching your partner what you like if you haven’t actually experienced it for yourself.

Another area of contention is oral sex. I have no idea why anyone would somehow believe this practise would be taboo in a Christian marriage. I cannot think of any scripture that somehow indicates that oral sex is wrong. Quite the contrary, “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other.” 1 Corinthians. The keywords here are “Do not deprive each other”

I think this could be argued as a justification for many sexual practises within marriage. My interpretation is that as long as you and your spouse are both comfortable with what you are doing, then pretty much anything goes.

Obviously practises which are degrading or painful are not part of Christian sex. If you’re not sure ask your partner. Intimacy should be encouraged as should honesty. If swinging from the chandelier is not your thing then let it be known. Your likes and dislikes need to be communicated to your partner. Good sex is a two way street.

On the subject of good sex there are techniques and methods for improving your performance. If you want to learn more about these methods then I would encourage you to take a look at a couple of eBooks which explore these techniques in great detail.

Sexual Skills for the Christian Husband!

Sexual Satisfaction for  the Christian Wife!

Both of these eBooks are very honest and technically complete. Orgasm, anatomy, premature ejaculation, multiple orgasms, masturbation, no stone is left unturned in their frank discussion of sexuality within a Christian marriage.

The bottom line, be comfortable with whatever you do, be open to experimentation and try and overcome any shyness you might feel. You are entitled to a passionate and deeply satisfying sex life.
God intended for our Christian marriage to be as fulfilling as possible and a great sex life between man and wife is without doubt a key ingredient in achieving this.

Good luck, God bless and enjoy!

Ryan Hayes

Catholic Marriage Counseling – When is it time to start considering counseling? – Where to find a Counselor and what does it cost?

How do you decide if you need counseling?

Is your relationship experiencing any of these symptoms?

• Communication breakdown, inability to talk openly with your partner.
• Infidelity in the relationship
• You or your spouse have developed a drug or alcohol dependency
• Constant fighting
• Any form of physical or mental abuse
• You or your spouse have become withdrawn
• Either of you are experiencing symptoms of clinical depression

If any of these symptoms are all too familiar then it is probably time to start considering catholic marriage counseling.

How do you go about finding a qualified counselor?

Your local church can almost certainly point you in the right direction in your search for a catholic marriage counselor. Also the phone book and internet can provide you with more options. The other option is personal referral, although generally most couples are quiet guarded about their marriage counseling so referrals may be difficult to get.

Is counseling expensive?

An hour session with a qualified counselor can cost anywhere from $50 to $150. Most counselors would recommend a course of weekly sessions which may be ongoing for several weeks or months.

Ultimately the cost of relationship counseling can be quite expensive. You may well be able to claim some portion of marriage counseling through your health insurance. Also some employers may provide some counseling resources to employees.

As expensive as counseling may seem if successful it’s obviously money well spent and is far cheaper than a divorce.

Are there any other alternatives to couples counseling?

Absolutely. Throughout this website we recommend a couple of excellent online counseling systems.

‘Save My Marriage Today’ by Amy Waterman’. This extensive guide is the most popular marriage guidance system currently online and features a number of PDF guides along with accompanying audio files. For a more comprehensive review please visit my ‘Save My Marriage Today Review.’

The other guide that is very relevant is ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ by the Rev. Lee H. Baucom. This guide is written from the Christian perspective and Reverend Baucom presents your shared faith as a major tool in repairing your Catholic marriage. Visit my detailed review at Save Your Christian Marriage Review.

Either of these eBooks would provide great guidance for any Christian Marriage that is struggling. If your budget permits purchase both and get both the secular and Christian perspectives on how best to start saving your marriage.

What advantages to these systems have over traditional Catholic marriage counseling?

There are several advantages that they provide

• The cost of these products is less that a single session with a counselor
• They have a money back guarantee. All products distributed via the Clickbank network have a mandatory 60 day money back guarantee. If you feel the product does not live up to your expectations, return it for a full refund.
• These systems are a downloadable product, which means they are available to you immediately. No waiting for appointments or scheduling issues. Buy the product, download it to your computer and get started learning how to fix your Catholic marriage instantly.
• Once you have the products you have a ready reference which is available to you 24/7.
• No revealing your deepest secrets and darkest pain to a complete STRANGER! For many people this is the most confronting thing about marriage counseling, that you are expected to reveal all to a counselor who you don’t even know. Sure over time you develop a rapport with your counselor but initially that is a pretty great leap of faith.

I believe that the greatest challenge any Catholic marriage faces is poor communication. Nothing is more soul destroying than being in a marriage with someone who is no longer communicating. Yet anyone can be taught to communicate effectively if they’re willing to try. Communication is a learned skill, not everyone can do it effectively granted but anyone can be taught how to do it.

It really depends on what you feel the most comfortable with. Having a counselor facilitate effective communication between you and your spouse or learning the techniques required through a learning system like Save My Marriage Today or Save Your Christian Marriage.
Discover The Secret To Saving Your Marriage!
Discover The Secret To Saving Your Christian Marriage!

The choice is yours.

Ryan Hayes

Using The Framework of Scripture To Guide Your Troubled Christian Marriage

If you are searching for Christian marriage advice then it is a reasonable assumption that you have some problems within your marriage. The fact that you are seeking  advice is a positive sign. It indicates that you are aware of your relationship issues and are actively seeking some guidance towards resolving them.

Too often married couples choose to ignore that their relationship has issues that need to be addressed. Faith may well be a source of great solace when your marriage is experiencing difficulties but of itself faith doesn’t make your union any stronger.

Marriage has always been part of Gods plan for his people, of that there is no doubt. Yet in our modern western culture the institution of marriage is under siege. Approximately half of all new marriages are ending in divorce.

The pressure our modern lifestyle places on our relationship can be immense. Many of the foundations of a Christian lifestyle are being eroded away and our culture has evolved beyond a simple “woman should submit to her husband”

Discover The Secret To Saving Your Marriage!

We spend years in formal education and yet the subject of relationships and how to successfully conduct them is seldom touched upon. Is it any wonder that we turn to the Internet for our marriage guidance?

At this time you need guidance to allow you to understand and deal with your problems. This guidance may take the form of traditional marriage counseling or can be as simple as downloading one of the many excellent online marriage counseling systems.

Two such systems which I would highly recommend for any couples seeking relationship advice are

‘Save My Marriage Today’ by Amy Waterman’. Comprehensive and detailed it is one of the most popular systems of its type currently available online.

The other guide which I think is particularly relevant to your situation is ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ by the Rev. Lee H. Baucom. This online system is very much written from the Christian perspective and Reverend Baucom highlights shared faith as important in repairing your relationship.

Christian marriage counseling and secular marriage counseling both share the same goals. The difference lies in their methodologies. Christian counseling may utilize the framework of scripture for guidance, whereas secular counseling utilizes the framework of psychology, as its primary methodology.

You have to choose whichever the two of you feel most comfortable with. In terms of cost either or both of these systems are quiet cheap, particularly when compared with the cost of several sessions with a traditional marriage counselor. Also as they are downloadable products they are available to download instantly and give you an opportunity to begin working on your problems almost immediately.

If you are seeking Christian marriage advice then definitely consider these two systems. The important thing is that you take some action and start working through your issues as soon as you can. Not only is your relationship with each other suffering but almost certainly your relationship with God as well.

Final authority lies with the word of God and not the secular world. Divorce unpleasant as it is, remains even more unpalatable for a Christian, who believes that our ultimate accountability is to our God.

May God guide you.

Ryan Hayes

Using The Bibles Advice to Prevent Your Marriage Ending in Divorce

Firstly if you are considering Christian marriage counseling then I must commend you. So often people fall into a cycle of despair as their relationship crumbles, wanting desperately to prevent divorce and yet taking no action to stop it from happening.

You on the other hand have admitted there is a problem and are actively searching for a solution. I hope my site can help  get your Christian marriage back on track and provide some of the support and advice you require.

I believe part of the problem lies in the belief that shared faith alone will get your through your marriage crisis. Unfortunately the statistics say otherwise.

The divorce rate for Christian marriages is higher than for secular marriages.  As much as our belief in Our Lord can provide us with much needed solace, faith it seems does not necessarily provide us with the tools we require, when our Christian Marriage starts to fail.

Of course the Bible is filled with practical advice for our marriage; it’s learning to apply that advice in a modern context that is the challenge.

For instance:

• Anger management – Proverbs 29:11 “Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back”

• Conflict resolution – Ephesians 4:26-27 “don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the Devil”

• God’s ideals for husbands and wives – Ephesians 5:33 “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband”

• “You shall not commit adultery” the seventh Commandment

Probably the most relevant of all is the need for counseling when your Christian Marriage is failing – Proverbs 15:22 “Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.”

There is no shame in seeking marriage counseling; in fact the scriptures instruct us to do so.

The next question then is how best to obtain this counseling. Well the best method for choosing a counselor is via referral. Unfortunately due to the intensely personal nature of marriage counseling, few people are willing to admit they are undergoing counseling, so you may find it difficult getting a referral from your peers.

If you are unable to get a referral then you are faced with finding a counselor in your area either via the phonebook or the Internet. The downside to this method is of course it may some time to find the best counselor for you and of course counseling can work out to be pretty expensive.

If you’re looking for more immediate guidance there are a couple of eBooks I would recommend.

‘Save My Marriage Today’ by Amy Waterman’. This comprehensive guide is one of the most popular eBooks of its type currently available online. For my detailed review please visit my ‘Save My Marriage Today Review.’

The other guide I would highly recommend is ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ by the Rev. Lee H. Baucom. This guide is very much written from the Christian perspective and Reverend Baucom highlights your shared faith as a major tool in repairing your Christian marriage. Visit my detailed review at Save Your Christian Marriage Review.

Either of these eBooks would provide great guidance for any Marriage that is struggling. If your budget permits purchase both and get both the secular and Christian perspectives on how best to start saving your marriage.

The real benefit of eBooks like these is that they provide you with the tools you need to really understand where your relationship is going wrong. Additionally they provide you with strategies to resolve your conflicts and start working towards rebuilding your Christian marriage

For the price of dinner and a movie you can get the guidance you so desperately seek. Also both eBooks come with 60 day money back guarantees, so you really have nothing to lose.

Whatever you decide I think it is imperative that you obtain some form of guidance. Remember marriage has always been part of Gods plan for his people.

May God guide you.

Ryan Hayes

P.S. Whatever you do don’t wait till it’s too late, take the first step towards saving your marriage. Even if you think your spouse has given up you can still save your marriage, you just need to take some action.