WARNING: ADULT CONTENT
Marriage is sacred, all Christians agree on that point. I believe that most Christians would agree that Christian sex and the sexual union between man and wife, is equally sacred.
Yet the entire subject of Christian Sex has been somehow taboo for generations.
So why is everyone so hung up on the subject of sex? Why are so many Christians plagued with guilt about their sexual practises?
The scriptures really only highlight a few sexual taboos, pre marital sex, adultery, bestiality, incest and homosexuality.
The church really has very little to say on the subject of sex, largely ignoring the sexual issues that many couples struggle with. Yet we are sexual creatures and I believe ignoring our sexual nature is a mistake.
One such issue is masturbation. Many would argue that the story of Onan (Genesis 38:6-9) indicates that masturbation is a prohibited practise. I would strongly disagree with this view.
Masturbation is both a physical and physiological release and is a natural practise for both sexes. Furthermore it is an important step in learning your own sexual response, particularly for women. It is pretty difficult teaching your partner what you like if you haven’t actually experienced it for yourself.
Another area of contention is oral sex. I have no idea why anyone would somehow believe this practise would be taboo in a Christian marriage. I cannot think of any scripture that somehow indicates that oral sex is wrong. Quite the contrary, “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other.” 1 Corinthians. The keywords here are “Do not deprive each other”
I think this could be argued as a justification for many sexual practises within marriage. My interpretation is that as long as you and your spouse are both comfortable with what you are doing, then pretty much anything goes.
Obviously practises which are degrading or painful are not part of Christian sex. If you’re not sure ask your partner. Intimacy should be encouraged as should honesty. If swinging from the chandelier is not your thing then let it be known. Your likes and dislikes need to be communicated to your partner. Good sex is a two way street.
On the subject of good sex there are techniques and methods for improving your performance. If you want to learn more about these methods then I would encourage you to take a look at a couple of eBooks which explore these techniques in great detail.
Both of these eBooks are very honest and technically complete. Orgasm, anatomy, premature ejaculation, multiple orgasms, masturbation, no stone is left unturned in their frank discussion of sexuality within a Christian marriage.
The bottom line, be comfortable with whatever you do, be open to experimentation and try and overcome any shyness you might feel. You are entitled to a passionate and deeply satisfying sex life.
God intended for our Christian marriage to be as fulfilling as possible and a great sex life between man and wife is without doubt a key ingredient in achieving this.
Good luck, God bless and enjoy!