Using The Bibles Advice to Prevent Your Marriage Ending in Divorce
Firstly if you are considering Christian marriage counseling then I must commend you. So often people fall into a cycle of despair as their relationship crumbles, wanting desperately to prevent divorce and yet taking no action to stop it from happening.
You on the other hand have admitted there is a problem and are actively searching for a solution. I hope my site can help get your Christian marriage back on track and provide some of the support and advice you require.
I believe part of the problem lies in the belief that shared faith alone will get your through your marriage crisis. Unfortunately the statistics say otherwise.
The divorce rate for Christian marriages is higher than for secular marriages. As much as our belief in Our Lord can provide us with much needed solace, faith it seems does not necessarily provide us with the tools we require, when our Christian Marriage starts to fail.
Of course the Bible is filled with practical advice for our marriage; it’s learning to apply that advice in a modern context that is the challenge.
For instance:
- Anger management – Proverbs 29:11 “Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back”
- Conflict resolution – Ephesians 4:26-27 “don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a mighty foothold to the Devil”
- God’s ideals for husbands and wives – Ephesians 5:33 “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband”
- “You shall not commit adultery” the seventh Commandment
Probably the most relevant of all is the need for counseling when your Christian Marriage is failing – Proverbs 15:22 “Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.”
There is no shame in seeking marriage counseling; in fact the scriptures instruct us to do so.
The next question then is how best to obtain this counseling. Well the best method for choosing a counselor is via referral. Unfortunately due to the intensely personal nature of marriage counseling, few people are willing to admit they are undergoing counseling, so you may find it difficult getting a referral from your peers.
If you are unable to get a referral then you are faced with finding a counselor in your area either via the phonebook or the Internet. The downside to this method is of course it may some time to find the best counselor for you and of course counseling can work out to be pretty expensive.
If you’re looking for more immediate guidance there are a couple of eBooks I would recommend.
‘Save My Marriage Today’ by Amy Waterman’. This comprehensive guide is one of the most popular eBooks of its type currently available online. For my detailed review please visit my ‘Save My Marriage Today Review.’
The other guide I would highly recommend is ‘Save Your Christian Marriage’ by the Rev. Lee H. Baucom. This guide is very much written from the Christian perspective and Reverend Baucom highlights your shared faith as a major tool in repairing your Christian marriage. Visit my detailed review at Save Your Christian Marriage Review.
Either of these eBooks would provide great guidance for any Marriage that is struggling. If your budget permits purchase both and get both the secular and Christian perspectives on how best to start saving your marriage.
The real benefit of eBooks like these is that they provide you with the tools you need to really understand where your relationship is going wrong. Additionally they provide you with strategies to resolve your conflicts and start working towards rebuilding your Christian marriage
For the price of dinner and a movie you can get the guidance you so desperately seek. Also both eBooks come with 60 day money back guarantees, so you really have nothing to lose.
Whatever you decide I think it is imperative that you obtain some form of guidance. Remember marriage has always been part of Gods plan for his people.
May God guide you.
Ryan Hayes
P.S. Whatever you do don’t wait till it’s too late, take the first step towards saving your marriage. Even if you think your spouse has given up you can still save your marriage, you just need to take some action.
